A couple years back I wrote a blog called “Man Wish List”. For some reason this evening I was thinking about that list. I started going through my head contemplating what I wanted now versus 2 years ago. I’ve grown quite a bit since I wrote that so certainly my tastes must have evolved. I started thinking about “what I want” and the answers that popped into my head were strange. I realized that they were no longer references to a specific man (ie: tall, funny, blonde…) they were references to how I want to be treated and how I want to feel in a relationship. Seems that maybe 27 year old Jacqueline was a bit more conceited than 30 year old Jacqueline.
When I had written my “Man Wish List” it was a compilation of things I had put up on dating websites. I had gotten mixed reactions and quite a few negative comments, and I can’t really blame them – everything I wrote was pretty superficial. So I’m going to amend my Man Wish List.
I believe that I am healthy on my own. I believe that I don’t need someone in my life to make me happy (see “Cherry”) however it would be nice to feel like the person I'm with, the person I want to love, can top off my happiness. I like to think of me as a gas tank. I’m almost full and I have enough fuel in me to keep me going, but that little extra support/love/kindness from my significant other just tops me off. It keeps me going longer.
So here are the things that can top off my tank:
I want someone to make me feel like I am one of the most important parts of their life
I want someone to let me know they think about me as much as I think about them
I want someone who I can lean on when things get tough
I want someone who will know when I say “I’m fine” that I’m really not fine
I want someone to romance me and make me feel beautiful
I want someone to take the lead instead of letting bossy me make all the decisions
I want someone who will support me in my endeavors, no matter how crazy they may seem
I want someone who will cheer me on when I’m down
I want someone who will leave me love notes and send me unexpected texts because they know it’s the little things that I love the most
I want someone who will stand up to my bullshit and tell me "no" when they know I need it
I want someone who will not judge me for my shortcoming or flaws
I want someone who will push me to be better than I am
I want someone to make me feel like their equal instead of their inferior
I want someone who will every once in a while say “aw, fuck it!” and go with the flow
I want someone who will push me to say “Aw, fuck it!” so *I* will go with the flow
I want someone to respect my feelings and opinions even if they might not agree
I want someone who can challenge my feelings and opinions with healthy conversations
I want someone who I will still be able to laugh with in 60 years
I want someone who will be as honest with me as I am with them
I want someone who will take me on expensive shopping trips to the mall and who will show up at my house with a romantic love poem and flowers and a giant stuffed animal of some sort and then serenade me with an angelic voice and I’ll cry tears of joy and we’ll kiss and he’d tell me that he thinks I’m hotter than Kate Upton and that he’s so sorry it’s taken so long to find me… Wait, maybe I’m getting a little off track ;) I guess in the end what I’m getting at is that it’s not the money or the stature or the good looks that I’m seeking. I’m seeking someone to compliment me, not to fill a void. Just to clarify though, I’d never turn down a giant stuffed animal ;)